Closes #40888

This updates runtimed to the latest version, which handles the
"starting" variant of `execution_state`. It actually handles a bunch of
other variants that are not documented in the protocol (see
https://jupyter-client.readthedocs.io/en/stable/messaging.html#kernel-status),
like "starting", "terminating", etc. I added implementations for these
variants as well.

Release Notes:

- Fixed issue that prevented the Ark kernel from working in Zed
(#40888).

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Co-authored-by: Conrad Irwin <conrad.irwin@gmail.com>