Reapplies #44273

I included metal-rs upgrade so we can get this working on Intel-based
Macs

cc: @JosephTLyons @notpeter @rtfeldman @Anthony-Eid 

Release Notes:

- Reduced memory usage on Apple-silicon Macs by using shared memory
where appropriate

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Signed-off-by: Marco Mihai Condrache <52580954+marcocondrache@users.noreply.github.com>